I hate how I find basic girl things hard

I hate how I find basic girl things hard. I’m obese and struggle with basic grooming even, let alone knowing how to put a SLIGHTLY fitting outfit together or do VERY MINIMAL, BASIC makeup without ending up cake-face and orange :confused:

Also, I’m new and wondering:: do we have a discord server?

yea, but only for long term users

as opposed to what though?

I also find fashion and outfits difficult, but I’m a guy.
shrug
welcome back to incelistan.

how long term is ‘long term’?
just wondering, not fishing for an invite?

dunno most of us in the discord have known each other for almost 2 years. If we just dumped everyone in discord there wouldnt be a forum.

true, that makes sense.

TrIgGeReD that’s not very cash money of you.

Jk jk do you boo boo

As a female, lose the fat and instantly quadruple your SMV.

I just see all the pretty girls and all of the girls with good families (ik it’s kind of ‘woo’ but i am firmly under the belief that going through stress my whole life aged me quickly. I’m 22 and look decades older, and this started since I was a kid) and I’m just like ‘i’ll Never have that. I’ll never look like that. I’ll never live the life that I am worthy of. It just didn’t work out for me. I was just meant to be ugly, sad, and struggle with basic things and have immense anxiety and suck at social skills and networking’

I know this. I am depressed and that is why I am addicted to emotional eating. I’m also an isolator so food is the only thing to do. Depression is also the reason I struggle with grooming. But even if I wasn’t depressed, I’m still just not a natural at a lot of small things that I should know how to do. I feel embarrassed posting this, but I find enough solace in my anonymity to get it off my chest

I get that, it makes sense :slight_smile: hopefully one day I’ll make it :sunglasses:

I’m on mobile, I hope I’m replying to things correctly. I thought I was quoting stuff

Being traditionally perfect is not the only way to get notice or be happy. If you can’t attract them through face, do it through power and ambition.

Power and ambition to attract males?

That will probably just make them avoid her even more. They’ll just assume (rightly so) that she will expect them to be even more powerful and ambitious than she is, because women always expect more from men than they do from themselves.

yeah.
should probably just attract someone who’ll love you for who you are (your heart).
I know that sounds like fairy tale crap, but honestly everything in life fades, might as well pair with someone who loves you for you.

you’re fine.

I expect people to be as ambitious as I am, but I also understand that not everyone has the same opportunities to have the amount of power I do. Not every girl is ok with dating someone lower on the social scale, but some are. As long as you’re not a total bum, I’m sure a manager of a wind turbine firm wouldn’t mind dating the guy that didn’t graduate from university but has plans for how to work with what he has.

Of course, if you guys don’t get along, you don’t. Power is the entry, personality is what keeps you in.

“yeah.
should probably just attract someone who’ll love you for who you are (your heart).
I know that sounds like fairy tale crap, but honestly everything in life fades, might as well pair with someone who loves you for you.”

No such thing. Anything approximating that is only an illusion, as has been demonstrated many times.

just because something is rare, doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist. :face_with_head_bandage:

Even if it’s just rare, the fact that it is rare is pretty pathetic in the first place.

You wouldn’t repeatedly gamble at the casino expecting to become a millionaire unless you were an idiot. I highly doubt the odds are any better with modern females.

hm, thats true.

idiot or not, I want to believe that someone can love me for who I am. and I want to be worthy of that love.
was trying to think of something else to say, but eh. I got nothing.

stay at home 32 year old
doesn’t have any skills
jobless
prefers online dating over real life meetings

yeah you’re gonna be waiting for a long time buddy